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GRIT Ed. 9 “Family Matters”
others the benefit of the doubt is
encourage them to do the same. Be
‘have to’ and ‘should’. Stress reduces
highly underrated. However – as
mindful of the amount of time you
our brain’s ability to access different
you likely know - if issues continue
spend with those you care for, be
options, so we stick to our scripts
to occur, that is a whole different
fully present with no distractions
and focus on what we can do with
conversation!
(including
our little energy.
2. Maintaining Relationships
Entrepreneurs are often advised to
phones),
and
have
conversations instead of utilizing
This can be very deflating for your
them as a sounding board for your
partner as often there is not enough
business.
energy to explain the feeling, and
maintain a community of supportive
leaders
and
influencers.
Great
advice, but given that entrepreneurs
your
You take care of your business,
business
partner
can
feel
isolated and rejected.
your team and other stakeholders;
rarely have a great deal of time when
This leads to an ongoing cycle
building a company, the time has to
“Make sure you
keep building
the foundation
of support from
those you care
about and care
about you.”
of lack of communication which
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world’. Asking for help is hard for
be carved out from somewhere else.
Often, that time comes from those
you know you can rely on.
When facing pressures, deadlines
and conflicts, people who are crucial
to your well-being may find you are
not fully present - or known only by
your absence. Being consumed by
something that may not materialize,
the harsh reality that you get paid
last (if at all) and the sacrifices
inevitably feels like the partners
inhabit different worlds (which leads
to severe misalignment as in issue 1
above).
The key is to reduce workload,
take time off, and find something
to energize you. I can hear you
saying, ‘Yes if only I was in a perfect
perfectionists and sometimes has to
be done. Building in a 5 or 10-minute
you may not realize you are asking
There is nothing more joyous than
others to make do not make success
celebrating with those who mean a
time
difference. Feeling you have control
for
exercise
can
make
a
in relationships easy.
great deal to you and who have also
over your schedule helps too.
shared your journey.
Unlike
other
areas,
you
can’t
delegate, empower or outsource
Review where you spend your
time and if it is the best use of your
3. Burnout
the need to be present as a parent,
The amount of pressure you can
energy. If you and your partners
romantic partner, friend, sibling/
put on yourself is limitless, anxiety-
are exhausted, then it will affect
daughter/son.
provoking,
energy-depleting.
your organization (and health and
This can become even more acute
relationships). You are partners and
and
So how can you manage this? Be
if your partner is not delivering
not just business partners. Burnout
honest with yourself; do you prefer
and you ramp up the resources to
can
working
confronting
compensate. Or perhaps you wear
remember you are a team. “I notice
questions from those around you
too many hats and have no one to
you don’t seem to have as much
who are worried and concerned
delegate to. Or perhaps you feel
energy as usual – is there anything
about you. Questions such as: when
you cannot delegate; they have too
I can do to help?” goes a long way
will you be able to spend time with
much to do, are inexperienced, and
at the right time. You are a team,
us/take vacations/help with other
unable to deliver to the standard
and when one is down, the other
obligations/take a day off during the
required. Perhaps veering towards
will buoy them up. It’s reciprocal. It’s
weekend/draw a real salary. Accept
perfectionism rather than progress.
productive. It’s the right thing to do.
instead
of
affect
self-awareness
so
you, and they have expectations,
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and it is not a competition around
When burnt out, it is hard to see
who does most; point scoring is not
where you can leverage others’ skill
helpful. Prioritize your expectations,
sets, the boundary between work
be clear about what you want and
and home life dissolves, and you are
be open to their perspective as you
on a never-ending wheel of ‘must’,
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